Poker

I'm a girl who likes to play poker, both literally and figuratively. Who doesn't like to be challenged and stimulated? When I had the opportunity last night to get both at once, I took my opportunity.

We all want to fulfill the fantasy of having sex in the office. Well, I have recently been promoted to the corner office with an excellent view of the Strip (I live in Vegas). Last week I met a guy while playing poker; a very sexy and intriguing man. Yesterday he took me to dinner and I realized that I had left my house key in my office. Being the gentleman that he is, he came with me to my office to get the key.

I walked in to the office and bent over to get my keys from the bottom drawer. I suddenly felt his hand on my back, keeping me bent over while his other hand moved between my legs. The rest of what happened is too much for this blog, but will be in my next book (https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/2832). I will tell you that at one point my breasts were pressed against my office windows for everyone to see...

Never Satisfied

Why are some people never completely satisfied in relationships? It seems that men are more unsatisfied because they tend to cheat more than women do. Or maybe it is just that women don't get caught cheating as much (we are smarter)!! I believe that women cheat because we know that we can't have it all in one man.

What do I mean by having it all?

• Romance - candles, champagne, fireplace, sensuality
• Sexy - take care of your body and we will take care of you
  
• Intellect - interesting, worldly conversations
• Funny - good wit, humor is so attractive
• Chivalrous - hold open the door, protect us without making us feel weak
  
• Adventure - extreme sports, doing the unexpected, travel
  
• Kind - warm our hearts
• Respectful - care about what we have to say
  
• Lust - hot, uninhibited sex, ripping clothes off, passionate kisses

And many women would also say honest. But do we really want to know that we looked better in the little red dress before we gained those 5 pounds? I don't think so. Sometimes honesty is not necessarily better. Some women would also include paying the tab in the list, but with so many independent ladies out there, I have to leave that one out.

The problem with the above list is that you can't have all of those characteristics in one man. You may score a man with most of the above characteristics, but nobody can fulfill them all. Most women seek a man to provide a good home and to be a good father, but the characteristics that make a man a good provider and father usually don't include Adventure and Lust (and probably not Sexy). So women search out another to satisfy these characteristics. That is why we cheat and that is why we are never completely satisfied.

Do you disagree? I'd like to know.

The best erotica book ever written

I strongly recommend that you read this book: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/2832

About the author:
I am a sexually charged, lonely wife. I have my own professional career, but I cheat several times each month. My stories are true, although nearly unbelievable. My books are labeled as fiction, but are very close to reality. If my professional colleagues were to find out what a naughty girl I am, I would surely be fired. I promise you will be turned on before you get through the first page!

Book 1 (Here's to risk takers) is the first in a 3 part Eroticani Series. You will NOT be disappointed.

Eroticani

I was asked to write about my nickname, Eroticani. The story is actually pretty good...

When I was 18 I crushed hard on my friend Rob. We would often hang out at this mansion (well, it wasn't a mansion, but it was a HUGE house) that was next to a beautiful park. The owners of the mansion spent most of the time traveling overseas or living in their beach house. Hence, we had the house to ourselves most of the time...very dangerous!!

One night we were drinking wine, good wine, that the owners had left for Rob for watching their house. I was watching TV in the living room when I heard Rob yell, happily, from the other room. He came running in with DVDs in his hand. The owner had left a bag of DVDs to be "thrown out" - I later believed these were purposely left for Rob to take. They were primarily pornos.

After two bottles of wine, watching pornos with Rob seemed like a good idea. I am an open minded person and at 18 there were no boundaries. We layed on the fluffy rug and put in the first DVD. It didn't take long for the inevitable.

As we laid on the fluffy rug, Rob looked at me and slurs "You are so erotic, Ani". I asked what's "Eroticani"? And it forever became my nickname. Rob and I didn't last, it was never meant to be. I've been a mixed martial artist for most of my life (tough, exotic, mysterious). Rob was looking for a petite, traditional, housewife-type girlfriend.

Rob and I still talk, although we live on opposite sides of the country. He still calls me Eroticani and we still have phone sex!

Cheating

I'll admit, this blog was created to test the waters with tabu topics that plague my mind. This topic is a sensitive one for me. We all have moral compasses, it's just that some of us get a little confused between North and South.

Why do people cheat?

• They're lonely
• They want a challenge
• They love their spouse/significant other, but are bored
• Their emotions take over
• They think it will only happen once
• Their life becomes stressful
• Their spouse/significant other doesn't give them enough attention
• They feel like they missed out on life
• They crave excitement
• Extenuating circumstances
• They need to feel loved
• They can't get out of their marriage
• They have an open marriage
• Their spouse has cheated
• They think they are in love

I've grown up around cheaters. My dad cheated twice (he's on this 3rd marriage). I've watched my mom flirt with cheating (albeit in an intoxicated state). My husband has cheated on me. And when I was little my stepmother made out with her male "friend" while I was in the other room (adults don't give kids enough credit). I've also known about 5-6 close friends who have cheated and shared their stories with me (people like to tell me things).

When is it okay to cheat?

• When it will only be one time, really
• When you have the opportunity to hook up with a celebrity crush (anyone see Entourage)
• When you have already filed for divorce
• When you have an open marriage
• When you have one last chance with the "one who got away"
• When you are so lonely that your heart actually hurts and you don't know what else to do

I must admit, I cheat for reasons that are NOT okay (as per the above list). The cheating addiction began when I was in my early twenties with a martial arts instructor, a very very hot martial arts instructor. If I could post a pic, the ladies would all understand. For those of you interested in some of the insane stories that came about from my cheating sessions, a short ebook will be published soon (stay tune to this blog for a link to the ebook site).

What's your opinion? Is cheating always wrong? When is it okay to cheat? Help me add to the lists.

Is it tabu?

There has been a lot of debate about whether is is morally wrong to sleep with co-workers. I think the question has some layers that must be identified before this question can be answered:

1. What industry do you work in? If your industry is highly competitive and people work long hours (i.e. doctors, lawyers, hospitality) where it is difficult to meet people outside of work, then it is NOT morally wrong to sleep with co-workers as that may be your only option for companionship. If, however, you work at a coffee shop for 4 hours/day, then it is morally wrong, and will likely be awkward to work together.


2. How old are you? I've been working since I was 16 and have slept with several co-workers. In your late teens it is much more difficult to go back to work to see your conquest as hormones (and emotions) are running rampant. However, if you sleep with a co-worker in your late twenties, it is much easier to pretend like nothing happened (if that's how you want it); which may be a little morally wrong. :)


3. Where is it going? If you sleep with a co-worker who is into you, but you don't feel the same, then it IS morally wrong to sleep with him. It is also morally wrong to sleep with a co-worker just to prove that you can (conquest). However, if you feel attracted to your co-worker and you want to potentially have a relationship then it is okay to sleep with him...but you may want to try dating first.

Many people fear sleeping with their co-workers because of HR policy. It has been my extensive experience that people in HR are usually policy-violating machines, seriously. But, depending on the size of your organization, you can take a few actions to protect yourself from getting fired if caught sleeping with your co-worker:

• Get some dirt on the head of HR


• Become good friends with people in HR so that you can know what type of story they would actually believe if you got caught


• Make sure that you don't get caught


• Swear to your co-worker that you will deny everything if you get caught


• Don't make googly eyes at your "conquest" while at work

Please comment, I would love to know what you think about sleeping with co-workers!