1 year = lots of cheating

I have spent the last year trying to make a relationship work, but I am who I am. I am a cheater. It started out just flirting with the hot new guy at work, but I found myself fantasizing about previous conquests and I needed to get some different cock. I was bored, plain and simple.

It began with a personal trainer. Hot, sweaty sessions in the gym, followed by inviting my trainer up to the condo to grab a beer post-workout, followed by sweaty sessions in the bed, on the floor, bent over the couch, on the chair, followed by shower sex.

Next came “girls night out” which were really my excuses to find random guys to bring home to fuck before calling my boyfriend to say good night…pretending I was too drunk to talk for too long.

Then we moved in together. This increased my desire to cheat. It became a challenge to see just how far I could go. What could I get away with? Hmmmmmmm

Working late and Girls night out turned into a weekly, sometimes biweekly, event where I would go to a bar or casino and find a guy to take me home with him. The goal was to fuck by 10 pm so that I could get home in time to not raise questions. But for those nights that went long, I always had a great excuse.

It’s been a year of this and I can’t break up with my boyfriend, but I’m getting bored. Looking for my next challenge.

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I am a sexually charged, lonely wife. I have my own professional career, but I cheat several times each month. My stories are true, although nearly unbelievable. My books are labeled as fiction, but are very close to reality. If my professional colleagues were to find out what a naughty girl I am, I would surely be fired. I promise you will be turned on before you get through the first page!

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Eroticani

I was asked to write about my nickname, Eroticani. The story is actually pretty good...

When I was 18 I crushed hard on my friend Rob. We would often hang out at this mansion (well, it wasn't a mansion, but it was a HUGE house) that was next to a beautiful park. The owners of the mansion spent most of the time traveling overseas or living in their beach house. Hence, we had the house to ourselves most of the time...very dangerous!!

One night we were drinking wine, good wine, that the owners had left for Rob for watching their house. I was watching TV in the living room when I heard Rob yell, happily, from the other room. He came running in with DVDs in his hand. The owner had left a bag of DVDs to be "thrown out" - I later believed these were purposely left for Rob to take. They were primarily pornos.

After two bottles of wine, watching pornos with Rob seemed like a good idea. I am an open minded person and at 18 there were no boundaries. We layed on the fluffy rug and put in the first DVD. It didn't take long for the inevitable.

As we laid on the fluffy rug, Rob looked at me and slurs "You are so erotic, Ani". I asked what's "Eroticani"? And it forever became my nickname. Rob and I didn't last, it was never meant to be. I've been a mixed martial artist for most of my life (tough, exotic, mysterious). Rob was looking for a petite, traditional, housewife-type girlfriend.

Rob and I still talk, although we live on opposite sides of the country. He still calls me Eroticani and we still have phone sex!

Cheating

I'll admit, this blog was created to test the waters with tabu topics that plague my mind. This topic is a sensitive one for me. We all have moral compasses, it's just that some of us get a little confused between North and South.

Why do people cheat?

• They're lonely
• They want a challenge
• They love their spouse/significant other, but are bored
• Their emotions take over
• They think it will only happen once
• Their life becomes stressful
• Their spouse/significant other doesn't give them enough attention
• They feel like they missed out on life
• They crave excitement
• Extenuating circumstances
• They need to feel loved
• They can't get out of their marriage
• They have an open marriage
• Their spouse has cheated
• They think they are in love

I've grown up around cheaters. My dad cheated twice (he's on this 3rd marriage). I've watched my mom flirt with cheating (albeit in an intoxicated state). My husband has cheated on me. And when I was little my stepmother made out with her male "friend" while I was in the other room (adults don't give kids enough credit). I've also known about 5-6 close friends who have cheated and shared their stories with me (people like to tell me things).

When is it okay to cheat?

• When it will only be one time, really
• When you have the opportunity to hook up with a celebrity crush (anyone see Entourage)
• When you have already filed for divorce
• When you have an open marriage
• When you have one last chance with the "one who got away"
• When you are so lonely that your heart actually hurts and you don't know what else to do

I must admit, I cheat for reasons that are NOT okay (as per the above list). The cheating addiction began when I was in my early twenties with a martial arts instructor, a very very hot martial arts instructor. If I could post a pic, the ladies would all understand. For those of you interested in some of the insane stories that came about from my cheating sessions, a short ebook will be published soon (stay tune to this blog for a link to the ebook site).

What's your opinion? Is cheating always wrong? When is it okay to cheat? Help me add to the lists.

Is it tabu?

There has been a lot of debate about whether is is morally wrong to sleep with co-workers. I think the question has some layers that must be identified before this question can be answered:

1. What industry do you work in? If your industry is highly competitive and people work long hours (i.e. doctors, lawyers, hospitality) where it is difficult to meet people outside of work, then it is NOT morally wrong to sleep with co-workers as that may be your only option for companionship. If, however, you work at a coffee shop for 4 hours/day, then it is morally wrong, and will likely be awkward to work together.


2. How old are you? I've been working since I was 16 and have slept with several co-workers. In your late teens it is much more difficult to go back to work to see your conquest as hormones (and emotions) are running rampant. However, if you sleep with a co-worker in your late twenties, it is much easier to pretend like nothing happened (if that's how you want it); which may be a little morally wrong. :)


3. Where is it going? If you sleep with a co-worker who is into you, but you don't feel the same, then it IS morally wrong to sleep with him. It is also morally wrong to sleep with a co-worker just to prove that you can (conquest). However, if you feel attracted to your co-worker and you want to potentially have a relationship then it is okay to sleep with him...but you may want to try dating first.

Many people fear sleeping with their co-workers because of HR policy. It has been my extensive experience that people in HR are usually policy-violating machines, seriously. But, depending on the size of your organization, you can take a few actions to protect yourself from getting fired if caught sleeping with your co-worker:

• Get some dirt on the head of HR


• Become good friends with people in HR so that you can know what type of story they would actually believe if you got caught


• Make sure that you don't get caught


• Swear to your co-worker that you will deny everything if you get caught


• Don't make googly eyes at your "conquest" while at work

Please comment, I would love to know what you think about sleeping with co-workers!